IN THIS ISSUE:
A student of mine asked this past week how he will know when he is ready for a girlfriend. This is what I told him: You aren’t ready for a girlfriend until you are having sex on a consistent basis, with different women. Ready when the fears in your life have either been dealt with or realized to be irrelevant and disappear. Ready when you can be perfectly happy sitting alone, with nothing to entertain yourself but your own thoughts. When you have a great sense of value, standing completely naked (both literally and metaphorically). Ready when you need nothing and want to share everything… and at that point you will be ready, to eventually meet that one girl who can make you forget about all the other women in your life. Then, being ready for a girlfriend can easily be gauged by the high quality of the women you have turned down for a “committed relationship.” People make way too big of a deal about sex, and way too small of a deal about getting into a committed relationship.
It’s Saturday night and I find myself in a suite at the Artisan in Las Vegas for a good friend’s birthday party. If you’ve never been, the Artisan is a small themed boutique hotel that reminds me of the Haunted Mansion at Disneyland. Anyway, just as sobriety had begun to completely escape me, birthday boy passes me his iPad with the following YouTube video on it:
(…as a side note, that video set the tone and the following 5 days of partying would have made Charlie proud)
I was talking with an associate of mine this week who’s a marketing genius when he asked me what the difference was between a one dollar bill and a hundred dollar bill. I told him it was the value. He was quick to point out that the paper is basically the same, and only the message on that paper is different. In other words, it’s the difference in the message that makes one a hundred times more valuable than the other. I had to pause and reflect on the implications of this concept for a moment. Where in both my personal and professional life was I discounting value by “putting the wrong message” on things?
I was helping a friend write marketing material for his new company when I read something on the internet that said the average person in America today has 0.7 close friends. This seemed crazy to me, so I did a little research, and while statistics differ a little depending on the source, they all point at the same trend. As technology to connect with people evolves, making it easier and easier for us, the actual amount of “real” close friends people have is shrinking. As a society, we may each have 500 friends on Facebook, but we have less and less people that we truly bond with, and that gap is very dangerous for the happiness of the society.
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That’s it for now… Go make it happen, and I’ll see you in Vegas in a few weeks!