The iPhone is simply the most amazing device: it can connect you with the sum of the world’s information and can be used to communicate with anyone on the planet. But most people use it in a way that prevents their happiness. If we learned anything from Eckhart Tolle, it’s that we can only be happy right here, right now. As he put it, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” You’re a social creature, so to be happy is to be fully in the moment enjoying the people around you. So how is it that your iPhone can poop all over this?
I’m on the Las Vegas Strip talking with two girls, Kim and Karen. Kim keeps grabbing her iPhone and playing with it, ignoring me. Since I’m an attention whore and honestly think I’m more entertaining than anything she could be possibly doing on her iPhone, I try to pull her back into the conversation by asking, “So are you playing Techno Kitten Adventure?” She answers by giving me just enough of her attention to say, “I’m texting with my friend Marcy back home.”
I can’t help but ask a question I already know the answer to: “So if you were back home with Marcy right now, what would you be doing?” Kim answers by saying, “I’d probably be texting Karen right now because she’s in Las Vegas.” Karen laughs at this answer because she’s smart enough to figure out what Kim is doing. Like most people, Kim thinks she’s being “social.” She’s using technology to connect with a friend that isn’t with her. But the cost is that she isn’t enjoying the here and now. She’s on the Las Vegas Strip of all places, and she’s oblivious to all the fun happening around her. Put her in Vegas, and her brain is at home. Put her at home and her brain would be here with her friend in Vegas.
I see this same thing inside of the Vegas nightclubs, which are some of the most entertaining places in the known universe. You look around and see so many people oblivious to the party around them as they stare into little glowing screens in their hands. Their iPhone has successfully hijacked their attention and is preventing them from being social, making new friends, and having a good time. They may pay attention to what’s around them for just long enough to take a sweet picture to post on Facebook, and then it’s back to chatting with their Facebook friends via their Facebook app. They will tell their friends how great of a time they are having, which is impossible because they haven’t been paying attention to anything happening around them since the picture they took.
I love my iPhone, but I love real social interaction more. I also know how easy it is to be sitting at a Starbucks texting people and feeling like you’re being social. But the reality is that you’re doing nothing more than distracting yourself from the guilty feeling of not walking over and flirting with the cute redhead that just walked in.
You owe it to yourself to be truly happy, which you get from learning real social interaction skills. So the next time you go to a bar or club with your friends, tell them you want to play a game… First person to touch their phone loses and has to pay the bill.
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