Are all men pedophiles? The answer to this question is more important than you may realize, as millions of ignorant women have embarked on a campaign to make millions of normal, mentally healthy men feel guilty… and their campaign is working.
Our journey to understanding begins 50,000 years ago, with our ancestors from the Later Stone Age. Life expectancy was 33 years on average. Follow me on what this means for successfully raising children back then…
To prevent the human population from dying out, each couple must have at least two children, and these two children must survive long enough to repeat this process. If we do the math in reverse to make that happen, we learn something interesting. Let’s say for the sake of conversation that we believe a 15-year-old child has a good chance of surviving in the harsh environment of 50,000 years ago without parents, which is a stretch. If the average person lives to only 33 years of age and has to raise two children to age 15, what age must the first pregnancy happen by? The answer is age 16. If a girl gets pregnant at age 16, and then again at age 17, she will have one 15-year-old, and one 16-year-old when she is 33 years old.
Here’s where Darwinian natural selection enters our conversation. Because we are the descendants of the humans that successfully had the most babies, who then lived on to successfully have the most babies of their own, and so on, we know how this evolved. Girls who could have children by this necessary age got bred into the gene pool. Simply consider that if a 6-year-old girl could get pregnant, the chances of a healthy baby are almost zero. On the other end of the spectrum, if a girl couldn’t get pregnant until age 25, there’s a good chance she’ll be dead and unable to care for her child before that child’s 7th birthday, giving that child a chance of almost zero for survival. Evolution has dictated what age girls can reproduce at.
What does Darwinian natural selection say about men in this case? Divide men into three groups. The first group is men who are sexually attracted to girls too young to have babies. The second group is men who are sexually attracted to girls just old enough to have babies. The third group is men who are sexually attracted to older women. Which group of men had the most offspring, who we are all descendants of? The first group won’t be able to have children with girls unable to get pregnant. The problems the third group faces with older women are a higher rate of pregnancy complications and a shorter time the mother will be alive to help raise the child. The winners of natural selection were men attracted to young girls just old enough to get pregnant.
These are the facts, whether you’re uncomfortable with these facts or not. If girls couldn’t get pregnant until their 25th birthday, the human race wouldn’t be alive today to talk about it. And if men didn’t find women sexually attractive until their 25th birthday, the human race wouldn’t be alive today to talk about it. More importantly, you can’t logically justify calling a man a sicko for the evolutionary programing that makes him sexually attracted to a young girl of childbearing age any more than you can say there is something wrong with that girl for the evolutionary programing that decides when she can have children.
Now consider this as we fast-forward 40,000 years toward today: Average life expectancy during the Neolithic Period was 20 years old. (Note: A very high infant mortality rate during this time period skews this average, but also realize that factoring in a high infant mortality rate would also extend the average time it takes to produce a healthy child.) Now go ahead and recalculate the math we did above for the Later Stone Age but now with a 20-year-old life expectancy. Yup, that. Without young girls being able to get pregnant and all the guys being sexually attracted to those young girls, we wouldn’t be alive today to talk about it. This is how we have been programed by evolution as a species.
Now inevitably, whenever I say “evolution” a large percentage of the population will declare that science is a “tool of the devil” and that we need to “look to god for the answers.” Fair enough, here we go…
Catholic priests seem to think that 9-year-olds are old enough for forced anal intercourse. Meanwhile, the Jewish religion labels a girl as a woman at age 13 during her Bat Mitzvah, with all rights, privileges, and responsibilities. More amusing is the example set in Islam where the Prophet Muhammad married Aisha at age 6 and consummated the marriage when she was 9 years old. He was 53 at the time. But the award goes to the Christian religion. Religious scholars agree that Mary was between 12 and 14 when she gave birth to Jesus. Most people don’t know that. Most people don’t consider the next fact either. As the story goes, it was god that fathered the child, and at no point in the story does god ask Mary’s permission. So Jesus is the bastard son of a god who raped a child? Okay, maybe we should go back to the far less crazy science.
Next we’ll look at the erosion of the English language through ignorance. The medical definition of ‘pedophilia’ is sexual attraction to prepubescent children. The medical definition of ‘hebephilia’ is sexual attraction to young people who have entered puberty. Most people have never heard of hebephilia before. This is because society has changed the definition of pedophilia to be a sexual attraction to children. And because the US government classifies a child as under age 18, everyone is running around calling any man who has ever been sexually attracted to a 17-year-old girl a pedophile. This is not only technically incorrect, but as you’re about to learn, the difference between night and day.
The DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition) classifies pedophilia as a mental disorder while hebephilia is not, nor has it ever been. (To put this in perspective, the DSM has only recently removed homosexuality from the mental disorder list.) There is a very simple reason for this: Hebephilia is normal. So what age group are we talking about here? Girls typically go through puberty somewhere between the ages of 10 and 16. Please understand that is not to say that they start at 10 and finish by 16. The beginning and ending of the process vary greatly. As an example, most American girls have their first period between 11 and 13, but some have it earlier than 11 and others have it after their 14th birthday. So, if you’re sexually aroused by a 6-year-old girl with a completely flat chest, you’re a pedophile. If you caught a glimpse of a 13-year-old girl in a bikini and her perfectly round, firm, yet supple boobies gave you a boner, you’re normal.
Let’s further define and bolt down “normal.” A male child typically finds girls “icky” (I’m using that as a very scientific term here) until something magical happens around age 11, which is when he will enter puberty. At that point, boys begin to feel sexually attracted to girls their own age who have also entered puberty. Studies show that as we age, the age we’re attracted to doesn’t change, rather it expands. This means that when you’re young, you find young girls attractive, and as you get older you begin to find older girls attractive also. You never start finding young girls less attractive. This is normal, but while the age range expands, evolution dictates that the preference will always be for younger girls because younger girls are more likely to produce the healthiest babies.
So if this is all normal, why are so many women on a campaign to mislabel normal men as pedophiles? The answer in most cases is as simple as it is sad. Women are on a campaign of guilting older men into relationships with older women. The married woman lives in fear that as she ages her husband will leave her for a younger woman. The single woman lives in fear that as she ages men will stop dating her in favor of dating younger women. Women know that over time their sexual value diminishes, while the opposite tends to hold true for men. (See Ziggy’s Rules for more information on this.) The solution created by women to combat this reality is the “you have a mental disorder if you don’t find my saggy tits attractive” argument.
You may be wondering why young girls find older men desirable. Here’s where that programing came from thousands of years ago. Where evolution values women for their reproductive value, which diminishes with age quickly, evolution values men for their ability to protect and provide, which tends to increase with age. As we progress further down the timeline of the species and introduce money into the equation, the age gap widens. As it stands today, teenage girls will worship the Justin Bieber poster on their wall right up until the day they move out of their parent’s house and enter the real world. As soon as Daddy is gone, they become attracted to older, mature, and masculine (the opposite of Justin Bieber).
Finally, we must consider the parents of these newly sexually mature people, whose instinct to protect their young can sometimes fly in the opposite direction of logic.
Many years ago, I had a business partner who got involved with, and later married, an older woman who had a daughter (a very idiotic thing to do). This daughter, not yet a teenager, had begun puberty. One day, I heard the three of them arguing. The daughter wanted to start shaving her legs. Curiosity got the best of me as I jumped into the conversation. I asked, “Does she just want to play with a razor to pretend she is all grown up like a big girl, or does this child have hairy legs that need to be shaved?” As it turned out, the child had very hairy legs that needed to be shaved. In fact, the other children at her school were making fun of her for it. I looked her mom dead in the eyes to ask, “And if tomorrow she starts menstruating, will your answer be, she’s too young, no tampon for her, let her bleed onto the floor?!?” To my amazement, her mom instantly changed her mind. A few years later, the daughter made a point to thank me for changing her mom’s mind.
I understand that all parents fear their children growing up. They want to keep them as safe, sheltered little ones forever. They want to protect them from the evils of the world and the pains of adulthood. I can explain the logic all day long, but most will never understand that tens of thousands of years of evolution have decided for us when their daughters will be sexually mature and that sexual maturity is defined by one factor only: their ability to have children. If you can accept that, then you must also accept that the same evolutionary process is what makes a man of any age sexually attracted to that young girl. You don’t need to encourage it, but realize that lust is blind, and all the disagreement in the world won’t change the biology.
So where did this magic number of 18 years old come from? The answer is high school. It’s true that statistics show students in high school who get pregnant tend to have a much lower annual income over their lifetime. These are the facts; but realize that correlation is not the same as causation. In other words, I would argue that children dumb enough to have unprotected sex (a requirement for this correlation) are using that same underpowered brain in the job force. The reality is that dumber people earn less money. I argue that a smart 16-year-old will use protection, is able to have a ton of safe sex without making a baby, and will grow up to be successful. Other than stupidity possibly disrupting a high school education, there is nothing magical about the number 18.
What about a child’s brain not being fully developed until their mid-20s? Some people like to argue that young people aren’t mentally equipped to handle sex. If brain maturity was any kind of a necessary requirement in nature’s design for sex, either the human brain would have evolved to mature much earlier or the human species would have died out, as no one would have survived long enough to mate. The people who make this argument usually fall into one of two groups. The first is over-protective parents looking for any excuses. The second is people who are blowing things way out of proportion, usually due to a mountain of repressed sexual desires and issues. Ask a smart high school couple who are regularly having sex and they will tell you that sex is no big deal, yet completely awesome. Am I the only one who’s realized that the people who campaign against sex also tend to be the ones who aren’t getting any?
Let’s look at the question of maturity from another angle. We give driver’s licenses to children. Why do we do this? It’s a matter of convenience for their parents. Could you imagine if parents had to cart their children around until age 25? Parents evaluate the possible danger against their own personal convenience and declare that age 16 is mature. Is that logical? Nope. What’s the worst that can happen while driving a car? The child kills themselves and a few innocent bystanders. What’s the worst that can happen if a 16-year-old has sex? Nothing. But wait, what about sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy? ‘Always wear a seatbelt’ is exactly the same as ‘always wear a condom.’ Know that if there existed some convenience that parents gained by their children having sex, popular parental opinion would change.
Parents can’t control who their daughter falls in love with any more than they can control which men fall in love with their daughter. While I agree that the government must have laws in place to protect those who have not aged enough to understand the feeling of lust (puberty), it is not the government’s job to step in to enforce a parental age preference when those parents themselves are unable to impose those preferences on their daughters. Lust is a law of nature, just like gravity. Gravity can be dangerous, and you can label it immoral, but you won’t stop it. This is a good thing, because without gravity, we wouldn’t be here able to talk about it.
My name is Drawk Kwast and I shamelessly and unapologetically have sex with teenage girls. I’ve never broken the laws of my state, Nevada, where the age of consent is 16. More importantly, I’ve never broken the designs of nature by having sex with a girl under the age of sexual maturity. The last teenage girl I had sex with was 19, which is half of my age. In a perfect world, if I were to choose the “perfect age” to date, I would follow Ziggy’s Rules all of the time, rather than most of the time as I do. But I truly enjoy knowing that I’m occasionally having sex with the young girls that most other men are ashamed to admit they’re thinking about while masturbating.
One final thought… While it’s an inevitability that I’ll get hate mail from a 40-something-year-old housewife in Nebraska married to a Christian minister over what I’ve written here, I don’t care. There will be thousands of men from a great variety of age groups who will read this and disavow the guilt that was unjustly placed upon them for feeling a perfectly normal and healthy sexual desire. If you’re one of those men, you may be interested in reading my books to learn, among other things, how I manage to date women half my age.
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You, sir, are one Courageous MOFO, and I salute you.
Thank you, Drawk.
Answer to the question title is NO. No, not all men are pedophiles. I don’t go around looking for some kid girl to sleep with and I’m a man. Moreover there are female sex offenders. Check out the following website: http://femalesexoffenders.com/fso2/. Do I go around accusing women of being sexual predators despite the growing number of hottie teachers seducing male students into having sex with them? No.
Message of this comment to anyone fresh enough to cross the line and make that generalization? Don’t generalize. Don’t try to make me feel guilty of being a man. You’re not entitled to have that kind of influence over me. You’re not entitled to be able to shame me of being a man just because there are such men who are indeed pedophiles.
You wouldn’t like it if you heard that some person accuses women of being naturally pedophilic just because there are female sexual offenders.
This whole thing is such a stretch it’s laughable. Most people have never studied true darwinism but neodarwinism. When I see someone using this kind of phrasing “What does Darwinian natural selection say about men in this case?” I cringe. Darwin’s natural selection is not a definition that taken alone is meant to inform us on moral and social implications. Also there is something called Artificial selection. Darwin said this of natural selection “”I am convinced that [it] has been the main, but not exclusive means of modification.”
People use the words natural selection and darwin pushed up against weak and poorly thought out ideas and think they have established a truth on something they have a bias toward.
Healthy adults are not attracted to children or underaged people because healthy adults know that a healthy relationship is based on equality. They remember their naivete and realize that teenagers do best exploring their sexuality among peers versus with someone who has had tons of life experience that will easily have the upperhand. Luckily with extended life spans and an overly populated world there is the space to not have to reproduce out of necessity. Young people can have the luxury to not bear children at such a young age or be unequally matched. Your reasoning in this article is scary. You compare apples to oranges and think you have made a point that sounds so smart. A mentally adjusted adult can recognize a child, teenager, member of same sex or opposite sex is good looking without then acting out sexual fantasies in their mind toward the person. So no not all men are pedophiles
Your religious references were even more ridiculous “Catholic priests seem to think that 9-year-olds are old enough for forced anal intercourse.” Really? That’s their official position? not the criminal behavior of some within that religion.
“Religious scholars agree that Mary was between 12 and 14 when she gave birth to Jesus. Most people don’t know that. Most people don’t consider the next fact either. As the story goes, it was god that fathered the child, and at no point in the story does god ask Mary’s permission. So Jesus is the bastard son of a god who raped a child? Okay, maybe we should go back to the far less crazy science.”
Really? You are using religious mythology and even worse taken out of context of the mythology in question to prove your point. Girl sit down.
Fantastic article, very thought-provoking. Thanks, Drawk.
Principal: Mr. Madison (Drawk), what you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3JzbWVDzac
Evolutionary biology is still at work. Are you ever planning to have kids?
Yes, but no time soon.
I’m a little surprised you didn’t mention this, but in Japan the underage-girl fetish is so widespread that it’s practically the norm. A huge portion of the fashion and beauty industry there is geared toward dressing and making up Japanese women to resemble school girls.
I remember meeting you in Vegas 6 years ago. I remember enjoying my conversation with you. It was so easy to talk to you. I stumbled upon your website today and this is what I think of your post: Are All Men Pedophiles, which was the first and the last one I’ve read.
Okay you have sex with teenagers half your age… let me tell you that. There’s a difference between being attracted to a teenager and a child. A teenage girl can look like a women and on a biological level, it’s normal to feel attracted to her… according to me. And I’m a woman. But a little girl playing with a balloon and making bubbles is something else.
I’m glad i didn’t have sex with you… it didn’t even cross my mind at all. You don’t have this power over every women, you know it. Anyway, i’ve got only one question to ask:
Are you attracted to women and teenage girls or you’re also attracted to little girls?
Whatever your answer is, rectify your post because it’s not very clear… and kind of scary, man!
Not sure if I follow your Darwinian argument. True, it takes more than just 50-60 years of modern industrial civilisation to erase 50-60,000 years of evolutionary psychology and behaviouralism. However, remember that semen is very very cheap to produce so it does not harm a man to sow his seed across the whole female demographic. He does not bear the cost or risk of childbirth so does not need to be discriminatory or fussy about who he boinks, If you are talking about the need to be discriminatory because of the need to invest in his children, then you are talking about marriage in primitive, preindustrial society and unless a man is very high status, he usually does not have a say in who he got married or bonded to.
Personally, I think the physical attributes that attract men are not youth per se, but the appearance of being female and not threatening to him. Females are definitely more neotenous than males, and a phyiscally closer to the bodies of children.
Men don’t want to be mistaking other potentially more threatening males as potential mates.
I agree, age of consent should be at puberty, period. I was also one of those men who felt like “pedophile” when i found some 13 or 14 year old girl from some mall sexually attractive, but then i did some reflections and research, it turned out i´m not a freak at all, i’m actually quite normal. Obviously i don’t have sex with girls around that age because is illegal where i live, but in countries like Germany or Portugal, age of consent is 14, so if i lived there, i would probably. Great article, i’m currently trying to date a 16 year old girl (which is legal).
I can see how a man could find a girl in her early teens attractive, I’ve seen some myself that can be rather appealing, especially with the way many dress now. But what I can’t understand is how someone could be attracted to a toddler or preschooler. They are completely lacking in sex appeal (flat chested, undeveloped body and characteristics as well as mental unawareness). They are basically “sexless” so it makes no sense to me.
Let’s be clear on the difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction.
Whether you are a man of 25, 30, 40, 50 or even older, to be attracted to a girl in the early stages of obvious sexual development is pretty normal, for the reasons you give. A young girl who is tall enough (say, at least 150 cm), with breasts having begun to develop, hips widening versus the waist, etc., begins to look sexually attractive, whether she is 11, 13, 16, or whatever. She may not be developed as a full woman yet, but if her stage of development is closer to woman than child, then it’s hard to fault a man for the attraction.
BUT: If you are a man of several decades age and find yourself on the same emotional level as an early teen girl, and feel intimidated by females older than that, then you have a problem that you should address somehow, probably through therapy. Early teen girls, never mind girls younger than that, are simply not emotionally equipped to enter into a sexual relationship, or encounter, at all, let alone with a full grown man. Some of them aren’t even physically mature enough for vaginal sex, despite their nearly adult size. But even if they are, the emotional chasm between you, the adult man, and her, the early teen girl, should be enough to dissuade you from pursuing a sexual encounter with her.
Of course, if you conclude that making an emotional connection is not necessary to impose yourself sexually on a female, regardless of her age, then you’re a special kind of monster who needs to be found out and stopped.