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3.5 Billion Marbles

by Drawk Kwast – May 19th, 2013

silver marble I walk up to a child with a bag of marbles. I tell him he can reach into the bag and whatever marble he pulls out, he can keep. He pulls out a black marble. Excited for only a moment, he asks me what other colors are in the bag. I tell him that the only way to find out is to reach in and grab another marble. Excited again, he reaches into the bag and pulls out another marble. It’s yellow, and he quickly tells me how much he likes the bright color. He then asks me if there are any other colors in the bag or if they are all black and yellow. I smile and tell him he will have to figure it out for himself.

He then looks back at the black marble, now at his feet. He asks if it’s OK to pick it up. He is asking if it is OK for him to have more than one marble. I explain to him that there are no rules to this game he is playing. He puts the black and the yellow marbles into his pocket before reaching back into the bag again.

He pulls out a red marble. He really likes this one, but I encourage him to reach back into the bag for another one. This time he pulls out a metallic silver marble. In that moment he understands that this game has so many more possibilities than he originally thought. He tells me that he never would have expected to get this type of marble until now, as he was holding it in his hand.

He then asks me, “How many marbles are in the bag?” I tell him there are more than 3.5 billion marbles inside the bag. At this point he realizes there are more marbles than he could ever play with.

There are more than 3.5 billion women on this planet…

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Second Chance Mathematics

by Drawk Kwast – April 14th, 2013

For most people, the decision to give someone a second chance or not is made by the feelings they have when the moment presents itself. Feelings are very dangerous things, and, devoid of logic, can make a disaster of your life very quickly. Like everything else in the universe, the decision to give someone a second chance or not has an equation that it works off of. You’re about to learn second chance mathematics.

It’s 4:00 on a Saturday, and Rebecca calls Sam to cancel their first date, which was set for 5:30 tonight. As you will learn in a moment, the reason she gives is actually irrelevant. Because Rebecca is a solid 9 in the looks department and Sam hasn’t had a date in over two months, Sam tells her it’s OK. As Rebecca is hanging up the phone, Sam quickly blurts out, “I’ll call you later this week.”

Eli walks into his boss’s office 45 minutes late for his first day on the job. He’s a Yale graduate that the company can barely afford. As his new boss mentions the time, Eli responds with, “You’re right. Let’s get started.” Eli’s boss never brings up his tardiness again, and Eli continues to show up late every morning.

Steve is having a drink at his favorite sushi bar while waiting for Cindy to join him for dinner. Cindy is now 35 minutes late. Steve asks the girl he’s been talking to at the bar for the last 25 minutes if she would like to get a table with him. She says, “Yes.” Ten minutes later, his cell rings. It’s Cindy, and he doesn’t answer.

Ten interns show up for their first day at Acme Advertising. Two show up slightly early, five show up on time, and three are a few minutes late. The owner of the company greets them with a smile and says, “Hello, I see that two of you showed up early. The rest of you may leave. For those eight, your internship has ended.”

The vast majority of society will respond to those four stories with something resembling, “Well, you shouldn’t take advantage of people, but everyone deserves a second chance.” Meanwhile, a very small minority lives by, “No second chances, ever!” What’s really interesting is that this small minority is also the most successful, and the majority thinks the successful are bastards for not being more flexible. So who’s right?

This is where evolutionary psychology must enter the discussion. Evolutionary psychology states that the function of the brain evolved into being because behaviors that hurt chances of survival and/or replication tended to get weeded out after enough generations, while behaviors that increase chances of survival and/or replication tended to get passed on generation after generation. Here’s a simple story to illustrate the roots of this…

Let’s say that 10,000 years ago there was a small group of five families living together. One family was a group of fuckups. You can think of them in terms of today’s trailer trash/alcoholics, and their fittest male couldn’t hunt worth a damn. Three of the families can be thought of similar to today’s middle class, and more times than not, they would return from a hunt with food. But, just like in today’s world, there’s always someone who’s the best hunter in the village, and he’s part of the fifth family. Now all we have to do is look at the survival mechanism for each of the three groups to see how forgiving they are. Here’s how each group will respond to mistakes others make while hunting with them.

The fuckups will be the most lenient because on their own, they don’t have enough skill to feed themselves. They believe it’s wrong not to give others lots of second chances because if they didn’t believe this, and more importantly if others didn’t believe this, they wouldn’t eat.

The middle class believe something different. Because they succeed only most of the time, they get the most food by pooling resources with others. If they have a bad day and others share with them, they still eat. And tomorrow, they are more than willing to return the favor if they get a kill and the person who fed them yesterday winds up empty-handed. If, however, someone in the hunting group turns out to be a fuckup, they will only help out that person so many times before they realize that they will never see a return on their investment. At that point, they will cut off the fuckup.

The bad-ass hunter believes something completely different from either of the other two groups. He hunts alone because to him, even a middle-class hunter is a liability. He always kills enough, and involving anyone else in his hunt would only mean less food for him. In some cases, however, he may have such a surplus of food that he becomes giving. In this case, he’ll help others hunt but this will only happen when he is sure he’ll be well fed no matter what. Even doing favors for others has a place in evolutionary psychology because of the benefit of having others in debt to you.

Here’s the equation: If I know the value you believe you have and the value you believe the other person has, I can calculate how you’ll respond. We could be talking about money, friendships, or women, because it all uses the same equation.

If you believe that it’s more likely that the other person will get his shit together then it is likely that you will find somebody better than him, you will give him a second chance.
If you believe that the other person’s failure is a bigger coincidence than the coincidence it would take to find somebody better, you will give him a second chance.
If you believe that it would take more effort to find someone better than it would to just put up with that person’s crap, you will give him a second chance.
If you believe life without the other person would be more difficult than life is with him, you will give him a second chance.

You learned from my first book, Domination Basics: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 1, that most people tend to undervalue themselves and overvalue others. That book also explained why people tend to do this. This is the linchpin to everything I’ve been explaining here. If you think you have low value and that others have high value, you’ll allow others to walk all over you.

Sure, in the long run, any intelligent, emotionally balanced person can look at a relationship of any kind and figure out whether both individuals are benefiting from it throughout its up and downs. You can evaluate your existing relationships yourself easily and quickly. What I want to open your eyes to is how you allow new relationships to form. The rule I live by is: If there’s no history, people get one chance and only one chance. There are over seven billion people on this planet. To find the awesome ones, you’ll have to quickly dismiss the ones that are less than awesome. Remember that this process isn’t about them; it’s about you. Believe that you deserve only awesome people in your life, and realize that there are literally millions of them out there. I may sound a little like the bad-ass hunter, but I’m not so different from you. I’ve just had more practice saying, “Goodbye, next!”

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How Smart People Use The Internet

by Drawk Kwast – March 6th, 2013

google search Mike Murray and Drawk Kwast talk about how smart people use the internet to make money and solve problems.

Podcast: Download (Duration: 58:42 — 23.5MB)

Mike Murray has spent his entire adult life as a serial entrepreneur. His diverse portfolio of businesses has included sports training, career guidance, technology, security, and applied psychology. Currently, he’s one of the co-founders at MAD Security, where he leads engagements to help corporate and government customers protect their information. He’s also in charge of the advanced curriculum at The Hacker Academy, an online training environment focusing on the newest methods of computer-penetration testing and social engineering. Mike’s personal thoughts can be found on his blog at episteme.ca.

Drawk Kwast’s methods have been called unconventional and even subversive. He makes no apologies as he teaches men how to dominate the competition at work, attract the most desirable women on the planet, and ultimately achieve a fulfilling life. Forbes, USA Today, Details, Worth, and Entrepreneur have all recognized his ability to transform clients’ desires into reality through his 60-day Total Experience Immersion training program. He is the author of two books: Domination Basics: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 1 (ISBN 1453801898) and Power Communication: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 2 (ISBN 1479372706). Visit his website at www.drawkkwast.com to learn more.

The following is a list of resources talked about during this podcast.

Let Me Google That For You is a great way to deal with people who keep on asking you questions that can easily be answered by using Google.

Fiverr is the world’s largest marketplace for small services costing five bucks. This is a great resource for making some extra cash when you’re broke, or for buying things for your business like video reviews. Give it a look and you’ll be surprised at the services offered.

PayPal is the most widely used method for receiving money on the internet. It can be used to receive payments for small odd jobs or to receive payments as part of an online store. You can get a debit card from them that gives you instant access to the money people send you. They also have a very small device that plugs into an iPhone or iPad enabling you to physically swipe credit cards.

LegalZoom is the place to go for the paperwork you’ll need to file when starting a business.

Lexington Law is a great way to fix your personal credit reports.

Kickstarter offers crowdsource funding. If you need to raise capital for a project, this is the best way to get it.

Wix is an easy, free, and quick way to get a website up for people who know nothing about building websites. When you’re ready to start selling online, you can upgrade to a fully functional online store for under $20.00 per month.

Google Voice is the cheapest and easiest way to get a phone number for your business.

Google Sites is another great way to get a free website up.

Google Wallet is similar to PayPal and can be used with Google Sites to receive payments online.

Ring Central is a cheap way to get all the bells and whistles of a professional business phone system.

Twitter is a popular social media platform.

Facebook can be a huge waste of time, but when used correctly, nothing is better for connecting with people.

Kinkos (now FedEx Office) is a great way to print out business cards and brochures that you create yourself, on your home computer. If you’re proficient on a computer, and have a flare for the artistic, this is a great way to produce things.

Vistaprint is another great printing resource. They also do stickers, mugs, and t-shirts. They are famous for doing free business cards.

CreateSpace is the place to have your book, movie, or song professionally packaged for sale. You provide them with digital files of your work, and they will produce the paperback book, DVD, or CD on demand as you get orders. This is awesome because you can fulfill orders without paying for a minimum order of thousands of units up front. With the click of a button, you can make your work instantly available for purchase on Amazon.com, one of the planet’s biggest online stores.

Fulfillment by Amazon is a great way to outsource all of your shipping. You send one big shipment of your product to their warehouses, and then use their website to direct individual shipments as you get orders.

Chromebook will get you online for under $200.00.

Amazon Mechanical Turk is a great way to make money if you’re broke, and can be a great resource for businesses looking for online labor.

CloudCrowd is similar to Amazon’s Mechanical Turk.

Freshbooks is a great solution once sales start coming in and you need to track accounting and do real invoices.

Stripe works great with Freshbooks for receiving credit card payments and is proving to be real competition for PayPal.

The Warrior Forum is an awesome resource for answering any question you may have about running an online business. You can post questions and other people in the community will reply with what they know.

Google Apps is the hub for all of Google’s business products, like Google Docs, Google Calendar, etc.

Google AdWords is the best way to advertise. After you build a website, you’ll need to get people to it if you want sales.

AdWords Express is the basic version of AdWords, designed for the less technically savvy.

PRWeb is a great way to distribute your own press releases. This is an indirect form of advertising.

The Vocus PR Suite is the software that professional Public Relations firms use.

Ted Williams is the homeless guy with the radio voice. Here’s the YouTube video and the Wikipedia page.

Google Analytics is used to see who’s coming to your website and what they are doing.

When You’re Awesome And No One Knows It is a story about violinist Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world, who played in Washington DC, at a Metro station. He played one of the most intricate pieces of music ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars, and collected only $32.00 from people passing by him.

Github is powerful collaboration, review, and code management for software development.

99 Designs is a great place to crowdsource the creation of graphics for your new business. It’s perfect if you need a logo.

W3 Schools is a great free resource if you’re teaching yourself how to code websites with things like PHP, HTML, and MySQL.

Use Scribendi for editing and proofreading. Have proofreaders review everything you put in front of your clients including promotional material, product packaging, advertising, and your website.

Domination Basics: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 1 is essential reading for getting your head screwed on straight.

Power Communication: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 2 is essential reading for anyone communicating ideas or selling anything.

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Suing For Partial Custody Of Her Vagina

by Drawk Kwast – February 2nd, 2013

Imagine for a moment a man standing in front of a judge, asking for a divorce from his wife, but demanding partial custody of her vagina. The judge would look at the man with disgust, horrified that he thinks he’s entitled to sex with her a few times a week even though they are divorced. Consider however that this is no more insane than a woman standing in front of that same judge and expecting money, her ex-husband’s money, in the form of monthly alimony payments.

First, let me say that I’m NOT talking about child support. I believe that the financial support of children should be a burden equally split between both parents. What I am talking about is an ex-wife behaving like a child and thinking she is entitled to her ex-husband’s money. The very fact that the court proceedings will refer to it as “his” money is the only indicator needed to establish who has rights to it. It’s as simple as the money he earned being his, and the money she earned being hers. He works one job and she works another. If they happen to own a company together, how the money gets divided up needs to be written in the operating agreement. Divorce has no bearing on previously earned income. And if she didn’t work while in the marriage, that was her choice. If I had a jobless old college friend sleeping on my couch, why would anyone think I owed him something after kicking him out? Would it make any difference if he was cooking meals, cleaning my bathroom, and feeding my dog while he was there?

The argument for a woman being entitled to a man’s money after divorce is made to “maintain her standard of living.” Any divorced man knows that phrase all too well. It means that he is legally obligated to give her enough money that she can maintain the same lifestyle as when they were married, and the cost of doing so ensures a lower standard of living for him. Here’s my argument:

If she gets the “same standard of living” so should he. He’s entitled to sex… or at least the cost of replacing that sex to maintain the same standard of living.

If I enter into a contract with a company to replace the roof on my house, and they stop working halfway through, that company is legally obligated to finish the roof. If they stop working, they owe me money to pay someone else to get the job done. In the same way, when a woman agrees to marriage, she agrees to sex “till death do they part.” Given no judge is going to grant her ex-husband partial custody of her vagina, but he should be able to sue her for his losses. She should be paying the bill for every date, vacation, or bottle of champagne he shares with any other woman, because that is the cost he incurs to get the sex she had agreed to. And believe me when I say that the biggest factor in a guy’s “standard of living” is whether or not he’s getting laid.

I believe that a sexual relationship must never become a financial relationship. Any woman who disagrees with me and thinks that sex entitles her to money is a prostitute.

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How to Flirt: Three Elusive Concepts

by Drawk Kwast – October 1st, 2012

You already know that the world’s best training ground for learning how to flirt with women is Las Vegas. If you’re a regular reader of my blog, you also know I’ve lived here for a little over five years. In my time here I’ve seen students progress from shuddering creepy guys, to men who can literally talk the pants off of women. I’ve also been fortunate enough to meet some other Vegas locals, who like me, are professionals at it. I’m about to teach you three elusive concepts that all the pros know about flirting with women.

Concept One: Sarcasm is the opposite of flirting. Sarcasm is saying something good and meaning something bad. Flirting is saying something bad and meaning something good. Understanding the difference is crucial for success. An example of sarcasm would be rolling your eyes as you say, “You’re the smartest girl I’ve ever talked with.” You said something good, but she knows you really think she’s an idiot. An example of flirting would be looking at her with a sly smile and saying, “You seem dangerous. My grandmother told me to avoid girls like you.” You said something bad, but she knows you really think she’s fun. If you do the opposite of flirting, you will get the opposite results.

Concept Two: Flirting isn’t sexual. Flirting is nothing more than playfully talking to a girl you may be interested in, to figure out if you actually are interested in her. Some guys think flirting is sexual, and they will walk up to a girl and say something idiotic, like “Nice ass. Can I try bouncing a quarter off of it?” Remember that the flirting process is the same for her in that she will playfully talk with you, if you seem like a guy she may be interested in, so she can figure out if she is interested in you. If you say anything sexual before she’s interested in you, you greatly hurt your chances that she will become interested in you.

Concept Three: Ambiguity. As things progress, there is a magical grey area between flirting and being overtly sexual. Once you know you’re interested in her and she knows she’s interested in you, the key to angling toward the bedroom is ambiguity. You may say something such as “I like you. You can be my girlfriend for the next 5 minutes.” If she says anything negative (saying something bad and meaning something good) in response to that, you smile and say, “Wow, I’m glad I’ll be out of this relationship in another four and a half minutes,” (saying something bad and meaning something good). “Ah, but we’ll always have the memories.” And just like that, you’re back to flirting. You keep this playful ambiguity going until she says something like “If I’m your girlfriend, I should probably take you home and give you a backrub.”

If you would like to learn more about flirting, have a look at my third book, Magnetic Interactions: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 3.

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Lifting Weight vs. Getting Stronger

by Drawk Kwast – September 11th, 2012

bicep curls Newcomers to the gym don’t understand the difference between the goals of lifting weight vs. getting stronger. Successful men not only understand the difference but also how to apply this as a powerful metaphor for life in general.

Let’s say that a guy walks into the gym for the first time and decides to start with his biceps. He sees someone else doing standing bicep curls with dumbbells. He watches and thinks to himself, “Looks easy enough, just stand there and lift the dumbbells up.” He grabs the weights and starts to lift. As it gets difficult, he quickly realizes something. If he uses his entire body to flail the weight up, he can lift much more than if he only uses his biceps. There are two things he doesn’t realize, however. The first is that he is risking hurting his lower back. The second is that he isn’t properly working out his biceps because that muscle group has become secondary to all the other muscles in his body he is using to flail the weight up.

The root of this problem is in his thinking. He is more concerned about getting the weight up (people seeing him lift the weight) than he is about getting stronger. A very strange thing happens when I ask people like this what muscle group they’re working out. In the case of this guy, he will tell me it’s his biceps. I will ask why then is he using every other muscle group to lift the weight, and he will get a confused look on his face. I’ll then explain that working out with the goal of getting stronger is about isolation and concentration. If you want your biceps to get stronger, you focus on using only your biceps. You work them out until they fail and then you’re done. He’ll thank me for the advice, but the next time I see him in the gym, he’s back to doing it the wrong way again. He’s more concerned with lifting the weight than he is with getting stronger. You see, when you lift to get stronger, you can’t lift as much weight, and most men’s egos can’t take that. Somehow there’s a disconnection in their brain with the logical fact that if they don’t train to get stronger, they won’t get stronger.

Here’s where this gets interesting. Move past Neanderthals throwing around heavy things in the gym and look at this metaphorically. In life, are you more focused on showing off or bettering yourself?

Would you rather buy an expensive sports car with a monthly payment you can barely afford or drive a lesser car that’s paid for in full?

Would you rather move your business into a flashy expensive high-rise, or spend the money increasing your advertizing budget?

Would you rather have your friends see you get the phone numbers of 10 women, or get rejected by 9 but actually meet up with one who likes you a few weeks later?

Would you rather find a magic pill that would let you walk into the gym, bench press 315 lbs. one time with everyone watching, or find a magic pill that would help you walk into the gym five days a week, working out until you’re nauseous from exhaustion, and actually get stronger and stronger over time?

Life isn’t about showing off. Those people never improve themselves. Set your ego aside and focus on becoming stronger. Become OK with others seeing your weakness as you train because tomorrow, you’ll be stronger than they are.

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The Perfect Beverage

by Drawk Kwast – August 5th, 2012

lemon lime water There is no such thing as an unhealthy alpha male. I’ve previously covered the importance of what you eat, and why you’re insane if you’re not following a strict Paleolithic diet. In this article I’m going to focus on what you drink, tell you things to avoid, and give you the recipe for the perfect beverage.

I have a basic philosophy when it comes to what I put into my body: If I don’t get a specific benefit from a chemical, additive, or other man-made ingredient, I don’t eat or drink it. I do make use of pre-workout drinks for energy, during-workout drinks for electrolytes, and post-workout recovery drinks that are high in protein because they are engineered for a specific nutritional benefit. I won’t drink additives such as high-fructose corn syrup and soy, which have an overall negative effect on my health. I then take it a step further: Even if an additive may seem nutritionally neutral, like FD&C Blue No. 1, I avoid it. My thinking is simply that if it’s a chemical, and I don’t get a benefit from putting it into my body, why would I put it into my body? It’s better to err on the safe side.

Something most don’t consider is how many empty calories they’re drinking. An inescapable fact of controlling your weight is that if you consume more calories than you burn, your body gains fat. A 32 oz. Coke has 400 calories with zero nutritional benefit. Contrast that with 32 oz. of water that has zero calories and does a better job of quenching your thirst.

Now let’s consider juicing. If you own a juicer, and are using it at least once a day to make organic vegetable juice, congratulations as you’ve found a very easy way to stay lean, healthy, and more energetic. One thing you’ll want to avoid however is using your juicer for making fruit juice, which is healthy, but way too high in calories. People who juice have also learned that it’s just not practical to juice a bunch of vegetables every time they’re thirsty… which brings us to the recipe for the perfect beverage.

When I’m not drinking something related to my workout or vegetable juice, I’m drinking purified water with a squirt of organic lemon juice and a squirt of organic lime juice. It’s just enough to give some flavor and quench my thirst faster. At first this may seem a little tasteless, but believe me, once you get used to it and drink a 7-Up in comparison, you’ll think everyone else is crazy for drinking over-sweet sugar water.

It’s worth mentioning that I’m not cutting up lemons and limes. I’m cheating by buying organic, not from concentrate, lemon and lime juice that comes in little bottles. As for my water, it’s purified spring water that costs me about $55.00 per month delivered to my door. If you’re going to have water delivered, be sure to read my blog post about the dangers of storing water in plastic for long periods of time and ask the delivery service if they have a glass bottle option.

Finally, you need a plan for when you’re not at home and out for dinner. Ask the waiter for a glass of water with a wedge of lemon. While the lemon probably isn’t organic, the water probably is at least filtered, and this is way healthier than ordering a Coke.

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First Steps Of An Entrepreneur

by Drawk Kwast – June 23rd, 2012

First Steps Of An Entrepreneur Mike Murray and Drawk Kwast help prepare you for the adventure of a lifetime, during your first steps as an entrepreneur.

Podcast: Download (Duration: 1:03:04 — 25.3MB)

This is the final podcast in a series of three designed to help you discover a direction for your life, and ultimately find happiness by reaching that goal. Be sure to also listen to Part 1: What Should I Do with My Life and Part 2: Living with Passion.

Drawk Kwast’s methods have been called unconventional, and he makes no apologies as he teaches men how to dominate the competition at work, attract the most desirable women on the planet, and ultimately achieve a fulfilling life. Forbes, USA Today, Details, Worth, and Entrepreneur have all recognized his ability to transform clients’ desires into reality through his 60-day Total Experience Immersion training program. His first book, Domination Basics: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 1 (ISBN 1453801898), is available now wherever books are sold. Visit his website at www.drawkkwast.com.

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Living With Passion

by Drawk Kwast – June 9th, 2012

Rob Murray and Drawk Kwast talk about living with passion.

Podcast: Download (Duration: 1:02:06 — 24.9MB)

This is the second podcast in a series of three designed to help you discover a direction for your life, and ultimately find happiness by reaching that goal. Be sure to also listen to Part 1: What Should I Do with My Life and Part 3: First Steps of an Entrepreneur.

Rob Murray is a creative director specializing in graphic design and behavioral engineering. He lives in London, Ontario, Canada, where his pastime adventures include Airsoft. You can find his website at www.ieatgravity.com.

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What Should I Do With My Life?

by Drawk Kwast – June 3rd, 2012

Mike Murray and Drawk Kwast help you answer one of life’s biggest questions: What should I do with my life?

Podcast: Download (Duration: 1:01:21 — 24.6MB)

This is the first podcast in a series of three designed to help you discover a direction for your life, and ultimately find happiness by reaching that goal. Be sure to listen to Part 2: Living with Passion and Part 3: First Steps of an Entrepreneur.

Mike Murray is the author of Forget the Parachute, Let Me Fly the Plane, a workbook that will challenge you to discover your true calling. In addition to that, he’s one of the co-founders of MAD Security, where he leads engagements to help corporate and government customers protect their organizations. He’s also in charge of the advanced curriculum at The Hacker Academy, an online training environment focusing on the newest methods of computer-penetration testing and social engineering. Mike’s personal thoughts can be found on his blog at episteme.ca.