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Ziggy’s Rules

by Drawk Kwast – February 2nd, 2010

His name is Ziggy. He earns silly amounts of money without effort, is a magnet for ridiculously attractive women, and makes James Bond look socially inept in comparison. I remember the day I met him. It was the day I realized that different people live in different versions of reality. The world in which I lived at the time was one of frustration, confusion, and neediness. From the second I met Ziggy, I could see that he lived in a very different world, one of ease, understanding, and abundance. I wanted what he had and I wasn’t shy about asking him how he did it. A massive amount of excitement swept through me as he began his answer with, “Let me tell you what I know about women…”

All women have an expiration date. He told me that there is a point in every relationship when the thrill of getting the girl turns into either the fear of losing her or the pain of not being able to get rid of her. There is a thrill in the chase and a rush that comes over you the first time you enjoy intense sexual pleasure together. This is an incredible thing, he said, but the very nature of it is fleeting, which means it cannot last. No woman ages in reverse; instead, her beauty will fade. A perfect love that burns intensely bright must also fade. Every flower blooms only once and eventually fades, but tomorrow will bring new flowers. You may know how you feel about her today, but you don’t know how you will feel about her tomorrow and, more importantly, you don’t know how you will feel about the women you have yet to meet in the future. All women have an expiration date.

Place this number in your mind, half your age plus seven. The perfect age for a female companion, according to Ziggy, is always half your age plus seven. If you are 24 years old, you will find the perfect age for a woman at 19. If you are 40, she is 27. When you hit 80, it will be 47 for her. As yesterday’s flowers fade, this is how to pick today’s flowers. Over the years, I have met many of his new wives and mistresses. They all fit this equation; half his age plus seven.

Easier to say “I’m done” than “Here’s half.” Ziggy told me he once put together an Excel spreadsheet to calculate the total financial cost of all his divorces and mistresses. He told me it would have been cheaper for him to have had sex parties in Vegas with multiple strippers every weekend for the last 20 years. He told me marriage should only be considered in the case of wanting to have children. Even then, you will regret it when you eventually find yourself standing beside your divorce lawyer in front of a judge. I will never forget how he explained that you may always be in love with the woman you married, but the woman you married is nowhere near the same person you divorced. They are two totally different people. Be ready to walk out in a second when that change happens and make it easy on yourself by not leaving her half of your bank account. Just remember, it is much easier to say “I’m done” than “Here’s half.”

So, how did these rules work out for him? Every time I see him, he’s in the company of an amazingly attractive young woman who adores every second spent with him. Ziggy is a man who enjoys every moment of life despite the fact that he knows the moment will not last. He can do this because he knows all the great moments will be followed by many others.

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Stripper Magic

by Drawk Kwast – November 8th, 2009

When I first moved to Las Vegas I made a commitment to myself to avoid strippers which, against my better judgment, I would later change my mind on. What had not occurred to me was that when you live in Las Vegas, every attractive girl you meet is either a “dancer” which is the same thing as stripper, or a stripper, which is the same thing as prostitute. These are girls I would meet at the gym or at the grocery store, get them out on a date, and find out they were a “dancer.” From these experiences, I learned a valuable lesson about women in general. That’s what this story is about.

I met “Kitten” (she actually introduced herself with her real name but I am changing it here to protect the not so innocent) while she was moving into my building. She was tall, slender, raven-haired, and 19 years old. I wanted to drink her bath water from the moment I met her. She was this dangerous combination of too adorable and too street smart. She told me she was a “dancer” and I told her I would figure out later if I cared. A few hours after meeting her, we were out on the Las Vegas Strip drinking Jager bombs.

I paid for the first round of drinks. When it was time to get a second round, I told her it was her turn to buy. She gave me a strange look that was as much seductive as it was confused. I told her I wasn’t a client and I slapped her ass as she went to the bar to buy me a drink. It was on this night that I made the most amazing discovery about women in general. After she bought that round, she tried to get me to buy the next two rounds. She did it with the cutest little, “I know you want to have sex with me look” on her face. I looked at her and told her that her stripper magic wasn’t going to work on me. She didn’t know how to respond to that, other than going to the bar to buy us more drinks. That was the birth of my saying “stripper magic” and the first realization of how much power these words hold.

I have known her for almost a year now. I am proud to say that I have never had sex with a stripper, and she won’t be the first as she turned out to be a bad kisser anyway. She is a friend. I enjoy hanging out with her to hear stories of the wild life she leads and because it’s easy to pickup amazing looking women when you are already with one. Every time we go out and it’s her turn to buy the drinks, I laugh a little inside knowing that she is buying my drink with the money she got from some horny guy the night before. She is one person in my diverse collection of friends who keeps my life beyond interesting. Every time she falls back into default stripper mode, I smile at her and remind her that her stripper magic doesn’t work on me.

The interesting thing is that all women are born with stripper magic. Whether it’s the girl at the bar asking you to buy her a drink or the woman who feels that she deserves half of a guy’s money after leaving him. It’s just that actual strippers use this magic as their primary source of income. Women think that if they put on some mascara and bat their eyelashes, guys will do anything for them, and in most cases they are correct. That’s stripper magic.

As for me, I’m different and I know how to have fun with it. Whenever any cute girl asks me to do something for them, I smile and tell them that their stripper magic isn’t going to work on me. If it’s a girl I am dating, I say no to things on occasion as I remind her that her stripper magic doesn’t work on me. If it’s a girl trying to sell me something, I tell her with a smile that her hooker magic isn’t going to work on me. As long as I say it in a playful way, everyone gets a good laugh. In most cases, it’s funny because I am calling them out on something they know they are doing. In any case, the women are always derailed with a response like that.

One thing to keep in mind when you are using this to tease women is that the truth hurts. For me, the sexiest quality in a woman is that she doesn’t need me. She hangs out with me because she enjoys being with me, never because she needs me to pay her bills. When you jokingly accuse a self sufficient woman of trying to use stripper magic on you, she will laugh. If you try this on a girl that has nothing going for herself but her looks, expect an emotional flair up. Personally, I don’t waste my time on low value people who don’t know how to take a joke.

Just remember that there is a huge difference between telling a girl that she is behaving like a prostitute and saying with a smile on your face that her “stripper magic” isn’t going to work on you.

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Science of Luck

by Drawk Kwast – November 5th, 2009

The biggest reason you don’t have the life you want is because you are focused on what you aren’t getting. You see only your lack of luck. Successful people live life as they desire because they focus on what they are getting. These people see all their options, and when they receive the benefits from wisely acting on the options, everyone else calls them lucky. It was Machiavelli who told us that success is 50% luck, and the rest is how we respond to that luck through cunning and bravura. Personally I believe that life is only 10% what happens to me and 90% how I respond to it, but this goes way beyond seeing the glass half empty or half full. This is the difference between seeing the glass or dying of thirst.

Most people hold the belief that some are just born lucky and others are not. They believe somehow that “fate” decides the lucky. The most interesting thing to me about the concept of luck is that the world’s biggest experts on the subject seem to be the ones who do not have it. The day I came to this realization was the day I realized the concept of luck was flawed. Think of it like this. What if the biggest experts on financial investing were all bankrupt and the people with the most money had no idea how they did it? It would tell you that something else is going on that no one is seeing. This is how it is with luck. Ask a lucky person why they are so lucky and the most popular answers will be either that they don’t know or that it’s because they expect good things to happen to them. The flaw in the logic of the second statement is simple. If you had been unusually lucky your entire life, would you not also start to expect it?

Ask a person who considers themselves unlucky about luck and expect everything from an emotional rant to a lengthy pseudo-scientific explanation based on something completely irrelevant like the day they were born on. They will include that the “fact” (as they see it) that because their luck has been so bad for so long, it means that their luck has to be about to change for the better. Ask them about a person who is lucky and they will tell you that because they have been so lucky for so long, they should be careful because their luck is about to run out. None of this is necessarily true. I have known people who spend their entire lives falling on their face and I have known people who always land on their feet, no matter what happens. The key to what I am about to show you is in the last part of that sentence, “…no matter what happens.” This has nothing to do with luck. It’s pure science.

There was a very interesting study done on luck by Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire. He gave a newspaper to both a group of “lucky” and a group of “unlucky” people. Both groups were asked to look through the newspaper and tell him how many photographs it contained. On average, the unlucky people took about two minutes to count the photographs, whereas the lucky people took just seconds. Why? Because the second page of the newspaper contained the message: “Stop counting. There are 43 photographs in this newspaper.” This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than 2 inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it followed by adjusting their actions based on what they found.

It’s not about luck. It’s about keeping your eyes open.

I am the type of person who is considered lucky. I learned how to be lucky. I interact with as many people as possible to create as many opportunities as I can for myself. I separate from the negative and pursue the positive in very creative ways. I know when to hold on to value that others don’t see and when to let go for something better that I usually find hiding right in front of my face. It’s not that I have better luck than other people; it’s that I can see things that others can’t.

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Blind Spots: What You Can Learn From a Turkey

by Drawk Kwast – September 26th, 2009

Being able to see your blind spots is one of life’s most important lessons and it can be easily learned from a turkey. Every day at farms across the world, turkeys are born. They learn that humans feed them. They are thankful for the nice humans who feed and take care of them. As the days turn into months, the turkeys see that they get feed every day and begin to accept this as one of the core realities of their existence. After the passing of 364 days, they sleep that night being 100% sure that they will get fed the next day. On day 365, rather than getting fed, the farmer kills the turkey. There is a big problem with living your life assuming that your past will equal your future. The thing to learn is that you are not aware of what you do not know, like the turkey. These blind spots can sneak up on you and kill you before you even know what happened.

I know quite a few men who behave like turkeys in their romantic relationships. These guys assume that the women they are with will stay with them for no other reason than that they are with them right now. They think that if their woman was unhappy she would have already left, and since she is still with them she must be happy. It then comes as a huge surprise to them when their woman leaves for another guy. This other guy knows how to give her things in the relationship that the turkey never even knew she needed to be happy.

Then there are the turkeys who have worked at the same company for 20 years. Every day they sit in their cubical, and every two weeks they get a paycheck. They assume that this will continue with the same certainty as the sun rising every morning. Then, to their total shock, one dark morning they arrive at the office to find out that the company is out of business. Because this possibility never crossed their mind, they are not prepared for it.

It is a very foolish man who thinks he knows the rules of the game just because he has not lost, yet. The woman you are with is not going to tell you in advance that she is looking for another man. It comes as a total surprise to every man when this happens. The owner of your company is not going to tell you that the company will be bankrupt next month. It comes as a total surprise to every man when this happens. The farmer is not going to tell the turkey that he plans on killing it tomorrow. It comes as a complete surprise to every turkey when this happens.

Unfortunately life doesn’t come with “CAUTION: Slippery when wet!” warning labels. Your blind spots are your responsibility, and like I said, most people don’t even know they have these blind spots until it’s too late. The most successful men I know all keep an open mind and go into every situation knowing that they can not possibly know everything. It takes a big man to get past his own ego and admit that tomorrow may take a turn that he hasn’t yet considered, even though he has been prepared for everything up until that point. Just admitting that you have blind spots will cause you to look for them and begin to see what you didn’t even know was there.

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Learning to catch… a Girl

by Drawk Kwast – September 15th, 2009

Everyone knows that the easiest way for a person to learn how to do something is to “learn by doing.” A good example of this is when you learned how to catch a ball. When you think back to when you learned how to catch, do you remember your parents teaching you about trajectories, aerodynamic drag coefficients, and gravitational equations? Probably not. Whoever taught you to catch most likely told you to keep your eyes on the ball, you hands up and ready, and then tossed a ball toward you. As they kept on throwing the ball toward you, some mechanism in your brain took over and you learned how to catch.

This may come as a surprise to you, but your brain is not designed to compute mountains of data with math equations. Evolution has setup our brains to figure things out through a system of experience based techniques called heuristics. These are the actual engines behind the “learn by doing” process in humans. Heuristics are not math equations. They are down and dirty, simple little tricks and shortcuts your brain uses to figure the environment out.

When it comes to catching a ball, the “gaze heuristic” is used. When we look at the brain activity of someone catching a ball, their brain is not solving a system of differential equations regarding the forces acting on the ball and then using that data to predict where the ball will be and thus where their hand will need to be to catch it. Without the help of scientific equipment, someone could never figure that out real time while the ball is in the air. The human brain just can’t do this. So here is how your brain does it. The brain uses your eyes to fixate on the ball while it is in the air. Your body then moves to keep the angle of this gaze the same as the ball gets closer. The result is an alignment between your body and the path of the ball.

Great to know, but what does this have to do with getting laid?

Every guy knows that you can’t learn to catch a ball by researching it. You learn by playing catch. For some strange reason though, guys seem to think that they can learn how to catch women by researching it. It will not work. Humans learn by doing. Sure, just like learning to catch, there is some good advice out there like don’t blink as you are about to catch. Balls in the face are never good (in any context) but realize that if your plan to get good with women resembles a father teaching his son advanced physics before throwing the football at him, you are doing something wrong.

So why do guys do this if it doesn’t work?

Let’s look at a second example. A person learning to run can practice running by themselves. A person who does this will improve their ability and when they chose to run a race against someone, their practice will pay off. The important thing to understand about this example of learning is that you can practice without the risk of failure because you are practicing by yourself. Most sports are like this. There are things you can practice to hone your skills outside of the game, without the pressure of losing. Once you feel like you have improved, you can then get in the game and only risk losing once you feel that you are ready.

Getting good with women is nothing like this. There is no way to practice without actually practicing inside of the game. You are either playing or not. Sure, read the rule book before you play the game but realize that you can only practice inside of the game. Guys hate this. The reality is that to get good at this game you have to play it as a novice and fail quite a bit before you learn anything. Every guy wants to avoid this learning pain and as a result, most over-research, thinking they can get around it. This actually creates a negative feedback loop. If you start off with a belief that you need to understand all the math equations before you can be successful, what happens?

The first problem is that with the help of the internet, you never feel like you have read enough because there is so much information available, so you just keep on reading. This is a wealth of information creating a poverty of action.

As you attempt to read everything, the next problem you run into is that you start to find contradictory information. For every guru that says one thing you can find another guru that says the opposite. The only way you can filter this information is to actually try it in real life and keep what works for you and throw out what doesn’t.

Then another problem because you believe success with women is in understanding the equations. You read, read, read, and read some more. Then you finally pick a girl to walk up to and test what you have read about. When it doesn’t work, you tell yourself that you obviously have not read enough and you go right back to burrying yourself in research.

This negative feedback loop just gets worse and worse because more research means less time out in public interacting with real girls. It never occurs to these guys that they just need time interacting with women to become comfortable with them. It’s not that the “material” they have been reading isn’t working, it’s that they have been hiding in a cave reading, and girls can instantly feel how uncomfortable they are.

This is the fallacy of the pickup line. Every guy wants that magic opener. They research to find that magical incantation that will instantly win the girl over. They overhear a guy who is good with women, repeat the words he used and then wonder why it doesn’t work for them. It’s not what you say but how comfortable and playful you are as you say it. Guys who are good with women are comfortable with women and they didn’t get that way from reading books. They will tell you that it’s not that complicated and just as easy as learning how to catch. You practice and you get better at. If you are reading this, I am very doubtful that it’s the first bit of research you have ever done on attracting women. You know enough to get out and start talking with girls. You need to spend less time with your computer and more time talking with girls (where you will learn best by doing). Just keep at it until you hit a sticking point. When that happens, research to find a way past it, and once you have the answer, stop reading and get back out in the real world. Rinse and repeat. That’s the way to learn. For every hour you spend reading about interacting with girls, you should spend no less than 4 hours actually interacting with them. Keep at least a 4:1 ratio.

So how long did you spend reading this article?

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Perfect Relationship

by Drawk Kwast – August 21st, 2009

Everyone has an idea in their head as to what a perfect relationship is, yet no one seems to be able to find it. Consider for a moment how many people there are on this planet. Consider how many possible pairs of couples that is. Now ask yourself, with this almost incomprehensible number of possibilities why are none of them perfect relationships?

It would seem just by the laws of statistics that a certain number of these – just by dumb luck – would end up as perfect matches for each other, but it never happens. If you ask a couple who have been married for over 40 years and have had kids if they have a perfect relationship, they will answer no. If you ask them if they have had a successful relationship, they will answer yes. If you ask them why perfect relationships don’t exist, they will tell you that its because of the difference between men and women, and that its in our nature to have some tension.

So if a relationship can be considered successful without being perfect, and perfect is impossible because of the difference between the sexes, where does that leave us other than confused and frustrated? The answer is in evolutionary psychology.

One of the things children learn is not to touch hot stoves. Ask any child who has just been burnt by carelessly touching a hot stove if they would rather not feel that pain and they will say yes. That pain, however, is a perfect system built by evolution to teach you not to hurt yourself. That system is not built to make you feel good, it is built to help you survive.

In the same way, people are confused by what the perfect relationship is. People want a zero pain relationship and wonder why they cannot find it. They are asking the wrong question. Perfect relationships are all around us but we are too blind to see them. As humans, we have not evolved to have zero pain relationships, we have evolved to pair a man and a woman together to have the strongest offspring possible. Evolution is a game of survival of the fittest and without tension there is no fitness.

Let’s say that a girl grows up without learning how to test a man. Once she is of mating age, she has no idea how to screen potential mates to find the best one to have kids with. She is naïve, easily lured in by a man who lies about his resources and ultimately their offspring’s survivability is threatened.

Let’s say that a boy grows up without learning how to deal with those tests. The boy has resources, but has no idea how to deal with a woman’s tests. Even though he would make a good mate, he fails the tests of a good mate and is forced to mate with a weaker woman, or worse, not at all.

As far as evolution is concerned, it is a woman who knows how to test a man and a man who knows how to deal with those tests that produce the strongest offspring. This is why make-up sex is so good after a fight in a relationship. The woman has proven herself strong by testing the guy and the guy has proven himself strong by dealing with it. Evolution then rewards them with great sexual pleasure because they know each other to be strong and great for mating.

As we grow up, we learn from our parents how to deal with the opposite sex. This is evolution’s perfect system. You see, you are the descendant of a long line of ancestors who successfully had offspring strong enough to survive and then have strong offspring of their own. This is evolution’s idea of a perfect relationship. The perfect relationship produces the strongest offspring possible and that requires a certain amount of tension. Humans are not designed to have relationships without “pain” – we are designed to have relationships that produce strong kids.

So am I telling you to start seeking out relationships full of pain? Not at all. That would be like me telling a child to keep on burning their hand on a hot stove. That would be insane. I’m telling you to relax and see things for how they are. Ask a couple who has been married 40 years if they have ever fought and they will say yes. They will tell you that it’s not about preventing conflict, but how they deal with that conflict.

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Weak Economy Success Secrets

by Drawk Kwast – July 23rd, 2009

Being an entrepreneur is about living a few years of your life now in a way that most people wouldn’t, so that you can enjoy the rest of your life the way most people can’t. The most advantageous time for an entrepreneur to spend money is when no one else has any. You are about to learn how to put these two concepts together to insure that you can successfully build wealth in today’s weak economy.

The information I am about to give you comes with a few words of caution: It is designed for entrepreneurs only. I say this because it is powerful and, if misused, it will financially destroy the average person. I will answer the questions of “when” and “how” but I can only point you in the direction of “what.” Follow this advice, choose wisely, and succeed. Now on to the good stuff…

The best time to spend money is when no one else has any. This is when your costs will be the lowest. What I am about to tell you will sound counter-intuitive, but one of the best times to get a new business going is in a changing and weak economy. Not only are your costs of goods and services low, but no one else has any money to compete with you.

Now I can hear what you are saying as you read this. You are saying that you are one of those people who have no money. You are remembering a saying that it “takes money to make money.” You are correct, but I am about to give you perspective that will change everything.

The reason that you have no money to invest now is because your ego has made a slave of you, doing whatever you can to hold on to all of the things you acquired when the economy was strong. Everyone did it. They moved into houses they could barley afford, filled with toys that they spent their last dollar on every month including the new car in the garage. They could barely afford living that way then and even though they are making less money today, they do everything they can to keep those things today. People are silly.

Here is your new plan. It’s very simple. Get control of your ego, and get your expenses down to the absolute bare minimum so that you can invest at the most opportune time, which is now. I am talking about sacrifice. I am talking about operating at the bare minimum. You need food, basic shelter, a phone, and a computer with an internet connection. You do not need cable TV. You do not need beer and cigarette money. You do not need Sparkletts water and other such stupid wastes of money delivered to your home. In most major urban areas, you do not need your car. Get a bicycle, use public transportation, and be amazed how much more money you have at the end of every month to invest. Hey, you want to be successful in a weak economy, this it what it will take. It will take everything. That is what you will have to invest. At that point, the “everything point,” it is only a matter of time before a very interesting thing happens to the wise entrepreneur with resources in a weak economy. They hit a point where they start to profit, and then they can buy all that stuff back for pennies on the dollar. When the guy who lives next door to you hasn’t been able to feed his kids for 3 days, don’t be surprised when he offers to sell you his 3 month old 52 inch TV for $300.00 because he has no other options.

Now we need to figure out what type of business you are going to start and invest that money in. First a point of clarification: A person who has started only one business, let’s say a flower shop, is a florist and NOT an entrepreneur! A person who has started a flower shop, opened a deli, a dry-cleaning business, and a worm farm is an entrepreneur. The difference is diversification. They could wake up one morning, decide to sell Michael Jackson merchandise on eBay and be successful at that also. You see the florist wants to be a florist and will open and operate that business in any economic climate, which can be a financially fatal mistake. An entrepreneur doesn’t have their heart set on one kind of business. They have their heart set on making money. They look at the economic climate and pick a business that suits the climate. Think of the florist as a woman who just bought a new mini-skirt, but the next day she walks out of the house wearing it even though it is pouring rain. The entrepreneur walks out of the house with a rain coat and an umbrella.

We are in a bad economy. It is raining outside. Stop trying to sell flowers and start selling rain coats. Shortly after September 11, sales of emergency supplies and gas masks went up. Start thinking in terms of what people feel they need and what problem you can solve for them rather than “what you want to do when you grow up.” As the economy gets worse, people are using cash advance places more and more and paying the owners of those businesses huge interest. The banking and real-estate system is falling apart, enabling people who are doing loan modifications to get rich very fast by cleaning up the mess. There is opportunity everywhere. When World War III happens, I’ll be the guy who made a fortune selling weapons and ammunition, hiding out safely in the bomb shelter I just built with all the profits. I may not be powerful enough to change the course of history but I am smart enough to ride the waves as they happen.

Being an entrepreneur is about living a few years of your life now like most people won’t, so that you can enjoy the rest of your life like most people can’t. Make sacrifices to invest in something that is profiting more and more as the economy gets worse. Now is the time to build your empire.

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Bill Gates: McDonalds Employee of the Month

by Drawk Kwast – July 21st, 2009

Today I asked myself what would have happened if Bill Gates would have taken some bad career advice and just gotten a job at McDonalds rather than starting Microsoft. I’m picturing Bill Gates wearing a McDonald’s uniform, including the stupid hat, standing behind the counter at McDonalds, ready to take your order with a smile. This is one of the more amusing images that have ever run through my mind. As an entrepreneur, my brain considers some wild “what if” questions to learn from.

There is something I have to remind myself of on the rare occasion that I eat fast food. It is that if the people working there were competent, they would not be working there. Something will happen, like getting soggy fries, at which point I’ll say to myself, “What type of an idiot could miss the fact that the fries are soggy?” Or, maybe the person at the cash resister just cannot figure out all of the complicated buttons on “order-takey-thingy” and I’ll start to get impatient. At those times I have to remind myself that if they were competent, they would not be working at McDonalds. Competent people are doing things like landing airplanes and getting paid much, much more.

At one point I actually figured out the costs to have a completely competent staff at McDonalds. The cost of my double quarter pounder meal would go up to about $11.97, at which point I wouldn’t buy it. Well, in all honesty, I probably would go just once. Just one time I would like to get things perfect. No ice in the drink. No onions on the burger. Maybe I could get fries that were pulled out of the fryer exactly when the buzzer went off leaving them cooked perfectly. Service with a smile. I know, I ask for too much.

Today I asked myself what would have happened if Bill Gates would have picked the McCareer path. The guy is competent and takes great pride in what he does. We can assume that he would have been a manager in no time. Once he was a manager, I would bet that his location would be one of the cleanest and most efficient restaurants in the chain. Being that he would do such a good job compared to all the idiots around him, he would no doubt get lots of positive reinforcement as to how good he was at his McJob. The saddest thing would be that all of the positive reinforcement would motivate him to stay at that job and prevent him from becoming the billionaire he was capable of being. I am sure in that case his parents would have been just as proud of him. His mother would have loved him just as much. He just wouldn’t have any money.

Just because someone is the best at shoveling horse manure doesn’t mean that they are living up to their potential. In fact, it is the opposite that is true. Anyone who is perfect at what they do isn’t pushing themselves. Consider Bill Gates. He would have been perfectly capable of running a McDonalds, while on the other hand starting Microsoft looked more like a train wreck that he somehow made it through. That is what entrepreneurship is all about. Surviving the train wrecks you create until you lean enough from the experiences to build wealth.

We all know about that underappreciated and underpaid secretary who does all the work and believes that she could never pull it off on her own. She is wrong. How about the starving artist who believes that no one else could love his work? He is wrong also. How about you? What is your passion? Are you a creative person working a not so creative job? Has your self doubt lead you to a life of being good at shoveling horse manure? Just because you’re good at what you do now doesn’t necessarily mean that you should be doing it.

It may be time to start looking at things from a different perspective. It may be that you are limiting yourself because you are good at your current mediocre task. What if there is a billionaire hiding inside you? Do you ever feel like the life you have now may not be the life you were meant to live? If so, it may be time for you to explore the perspective of people who are getting everything they want out of life.

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START-UP STRATEGY: Stop Lying To Yourself And Start Accomplishing

by Drawk Kwast – July 9th, 2009

If you are planning on becoming an entrepreneur, the first thing you need is a start-up strategy. I am going to give you 7 start-up strategy secrets that will increase your chances of success ten times or more.

Secret 1: Stop lying to yourself and start accomplishing.

For everything that is said and done, so much is said and so little gets done. I frequently receive email from people telling me about their business ideas. Most of these email messages read exactly the same. They tell me how great their idea is and how easy it would be to do. These people aren’t looking for my advice as much as they are hoping I send them back a message telling them how great their idea is. I always reply in the same way. I ask them, “What actions have you taken towards making this happen?” Most people who talk about their ideas are just looking for validation from others telling them, “You are so smart and cool for having such a brilliant idea.” They are never going to take action or do anything about it. They are lying to themselves. The reality is that because they have never taken any steps toward their idea, they have no clue as to what it would actually take to accomplish it. Believing it would be easy makes them feel better, and lets them believe it would be easy for them to be a success. The entrepreneur is a person of great action and little talk. If you truly have a great idea, take action and make it happen.

Secret 2: Know it is possible and find the way yourself.

As I said above, you are going to have to take action, and as you do you will discover all kinds of things standing in your way. There are no problems. There are only challenges. For every challenge that you discover standing in your way, know that there exists a solution. Know that there is no one more excited about your idea than you. Because of that, no one is as motivated as you are to find the solution to that challenge. Know that there is an answer, it can be found, and take the responsibility to find it yourself.

Secret 3: Understand the difficulty reward connection.

There is very, very little that is truly impossible. The fact that something is difficult only makes the reward more valuable because it is available to less people. If you want easy, sell lemonade during the summer in Las Vegas. It is something that anyone can do, and that is why you will not make much money at it. If you want to be as wealthy as the top 5% of the world, you will have to accomplish something that 95% of the world cannot. You don’t need to work harder that the other 95%, just be smarter that the other 95%.

Secret 4: Ready, fire, and then aim.

You will not know all of the roadblocks until after you start your journey. Without action, you get nowhere. The most powerful part of your start-up strategy is that it starts with action and then self corrects as it is moving. It never stops and is always collecting more information as it fine tunes it’s direction. An entrepreneur operates like a guided missile. A decision is made to hit a target and the missile is fired in the general direction of that target. As the missile is in a state of continuous movement toward the target, it collects data on the target and adjusts its course to ensure hitting that target.

Secret 5: Get out of bed every morning for 3 reasons.

Failing to plan is planning to fail. You need to keep a list of 3 things you are working on to bring you closer to your goal. Each day you will take action on each item, and because of it each day you will get closer to your goal until you achieve it. Think of this as your “Challenges List.” If any item on your list cannot be done in one day, that item needs to be broken down into smaller steps that can be accomplished inside of one day. An example of a bad list item would be “write a book.” This will not actually happen in one day. Break it into multiple steps that can be done in one day. Start off with, “Decide what I want to write about. Go to a bookstore to look at similar books already published, taking notes on things I see that I find interesting. Write a chapter outline for my book.” Then write down your list of what 3 things you will get done the following day. Baby steps.

Secret 6: Failure is a requirement.

The biggest factor keeping people from success is the massive failure that it requires. One of the most important things any successful entrepreneur will tell you is that most of our ideas never work. In fact, very few of our ideas ever turn profitable. Keep your motivation and realize that successful people fail more times than the unsuccessful. They never give up and when things finally work out, it’s all worth it. The fastest way to increase your rate of success is to increase your rate of failure and learn something every time you fail.

Secret 7: You don’t know what you don’t know, but others do.

Once you are in a continuous state of action toward your goal, you don’t need to reinvent the wheel. Chances are good that whatever roadblocks you have hit have been hit by other travelers. The chances are also very good that some of those travelers have written about how they got past those same challenges and posted that information to the internet. Part of your start-up strategy is discovering how others got past the same challenges.

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When To Kiss A Girl

by Drawk Kwast – July 3rd, 2009

One of the most important things for a guy to learn is when to kiss a girl. Any girl you ask will tell you that the first kiss is a perfect moment they dream about and if you do it wrong, you’re out of the game. The trick is to know when that perfect moment is. Its time for you to finally learn when to kiss a girl.

Have you ever noticed that the people who are the smartest tend to do the worst with women? The guys in high school who did the best in math and science classes did the worst with girls. The guys on the football team who barely passed their math and science classes did the best with women. The first thing you need to understand about kissing girls is that:

Trying to solve this by thinking about it will only hurt you.

Girls are not a math problem or a science project. This is why the captain of the football team who got hit in the head quite often and smoked too much pot did better with women than you did. Its because he didn’t think about it. He just went with his caveman-like urges.

I was like you at one point, on the internet looking for information I could use to “think” my way past this problem. The more information I read, the worse I got. This is because the more information I found, the more I thought about it.

Have you ever been on a date with a girl and spent the whole time preoccupied thinking about some perfect plan you came up with as to how you would kiss her at the end of the date? How did that work for you? I can tell you how that plan worked for me when I did things like that. Disaster. Not only did things end badly, never how I planed them, but I didn’t have any fun because of the pressure I created for myself with my thoughts.

Things are different now. I never “think” about kissing girls while I am with them, because I just kiss them. How does this work for me? Very well. Because I’m not preoccupied with thinking about the kiss, I am actually having fun with them. As soon as that moment happens, I do it, usually in the middle of the date, sometimes even in the beginning. The best part is that if you kiss during the date, it greatly increases the likelihood that you will be doing much more than kissing at the end of the date, like making breakfast together the next morning. So how do I know when to kiss a girl?

First you must learn to turn off your thoughts and turn on your primal carnal nature. You need to get back in touch with the animalistic part of yourself. An easy way to do that is by:

Paying attention to how women smell.

When a woman walks by me, I breathe in as she passes. As I do this I am NOT thinking about how she smells, I am paying attention to what sensations that smell causes in my body. As you practice this and your animal side starts to wake up, you will notice that some women have a particular “smell” to them that excites you. I’m not talking about the perfume they may be wearing; I am talking about their smell. Once you become aware of the exact smell that gets you going, you will be surprised as your desire level with different women changes. You may find yourself wildly attracted to a 5 just because she has that smell. You may find that you lose attraction for a 10 as you walk up to her and she doesn’t have that smell. Eventually you will find a 10 with that smell, and trust me, your brain will turn all thought off as you start drooling on yourself.

Now you have harnessed the power.

When you are out on a date, you will find yourself asking the question, “Should I be kissing her right now?” The answer is always yes. That question, which is a thought, was triggered by a feeling. That feeling is an urge sent to you by the part of yourself you have just learned to communicate with. What you need to learn now is how to go from that urge to action, from that urge to kissing her. If you go from urge to thought, you missed it. Move slow, but do it right away, before you think about it.

Will this always be the right time?

As you wake up that part of your brain, you will be more in tune with what the girl is feeling. Women tend to mirror the emotions of the guy they are with. The old you was feeling uncomfortable and unsure. So what was the girl feeling when you tried to kiss her? Uncomfortable and unsure. When you are free of thought and in the moment lead by that primitive part of your brain, something else happens. You feel passionate and excited when you kiss her. She will feel passionate and excited as you kiss her.

When you have turned off thought and are in tune with animalistic desire, look into her eyes and make your move because that is when to kiss a girl.